I just discovered ASMR (Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response) recently – apparently it’s a phenomenon which hasn’t been scientifically proven but a lot of people claim to have experienced it. You get tingling / chilling sensations from your brain to your spine from watching & listening to soothing sounds such as gentle whispering, plastic crinkling, fingernails tapping, etc. Sounds boring, but I have watched a couple of videos where I couldn’t sleep and it worked. I mean let’s face it – when you work as a PSO (Phone Sex Operator) – you don’t really sleep like normal people do due to oddball hours. I haven’t experienced the tingling part though. ASMR is not meant to be for sexual stimulation, but if you get “sexually stimulated” from it, well then hey – that’s a bonus for you! ;)


For a cheapie like me, nothing gets my blood boiling more than my HARD-earned tax dollars being spent on stupid, fruitless, pointless things…like the Popular Romance Project. A study on romance in popular culture? Really?!

What monkey (or fleet of monkeys) brainstorming on the crapper came up with this? This is a valid study because sex sells? People like sex? What an epiphany! Who knew?!

Ummmm, well….we all knew. And we’ve ALWAYS known. Sex has been selling since the first penis “accidentally” slipped into the first vagina! Sex has been used as currency and for control since the beginning of man. So why a study that spent—you ready for it?—almost a MILLION dollars since 2010 on this? How did this happen?!

Being a phone sex operator, I naturally know A LOT about sex. What guys want, all the different fetishes, what the hot topics are of the moment, etc. I don’t read watered-down romance novels because 1) they are watered down! 2) they are traditionally written by hack writers with very little talent, 3) I don’t like things that pander to bored and horny housewives, because if they start giving it up again, that cuts into MY business, and 4) they just aren’t GOOD. Now, how can a “lowly” phonesex girl make such a claim? So I work in the adult industry…but that doesn’t mean I’m a dullard. I READ. I mean, I REALLY read. I’m not talking Twilight and issues of Vogue and 50 Shades of SHIT here: Dostoyevsky, Vonnegut, Fitzgerald, Rand…you know, people who write COMPELLING stories with flair, and this little thing called talent. As far as I can tell, romance novels are pretty much a joke to the rest of the literary world. And speaking of Twilight, this “project” actually poses questions like if the Edward character is “controlling or romantic”. Who cares?! It’s FICTION! And fiction for the undeveloped minds of tweens, to boot!

And besides, don’t ALL love stories and fairy tales just give women the wrong expectations, anyway? I mean, when I was a little girl, those stories had me believing that by this age, I would have met my knight in shining armor, he would have swept me off my feet, and we’d be married with beautiful kids by now.


I definitely did NOT envision the studio apartment I live in now, or being paid to assist in masturbation over the phone. Not that I’m complaining—as an adult I no longer compare myself to those ludicrous stories which do nothing to prepare young girls for what love and sex are really like in the real world. Did we really need to spend more money perpetuating—nay, celebrating—these pathetic illusions?

So WHAT, exactly, does this Popular Romance Project reveal? It’s fine and good to study things on an individual level—I would think it was great if I had a friend who wanted to study, and even write a book on, romance across the ages. Not my cup of tea, but I do like history in general and that’s fine. But tax dollars spent to explore this? HELLS TO THE NO. 

This is what their site has to say about this “important” project:

“The Popular Romance Project will explore the fascinating, often contradictory origins and influences of popular romance as told in novels, films, comics, advice books, songs, and internet fan fiction, taking a global perspective—while looking back across time as far as the ancient Greeks.”

Hmmmmmm…so they didn’t even study REAL romance stories, just the fiction?  I mean, who gives a shit except for the people who read that crap anyway? Again I ask, “how did this happen?”I really don’t think the average income-earner (NOT the stay-at-home-moms who read that junk) would justify even a single collective dollar going to the project, let alone over 900K!

A “global perspective” on fictional romance? How about a global perspective on the medical uses of marijuana and its possible benefits to the global economy? A global perspective on crime…murder…or ANY kind of mental illness—I’d read THAT. And THAT might have some real value; real conclusions that could then be parlayed into some kind of change or awareness. Ugh. I’m incensed by this flagrant waste of my money, and I hope you are too. And they say phone sex is frivolous!  I’d like to open a can of my most sadistic domination on those fools! I’d have them begging for forgiveness like the stupid worms they are! And then I’d charge them triple. ;p



See this disgrace for yourself:


Info on the money wasted:


Ok, for the most part, I try to stay out of political matters. But I always have, and always will, stick up for women’s rights as the proud, modern, unashamed woman that I am. I mean, I work in the adult industry—that takes a good deal of being open-minded and liberal in such matters. I don’t know what my “client’s” political affiliations are (and trust me, politics are the LAST thing on their minds when they’ve got me on the phone), and I don’t care because it has nothing to do with what we are doing. I’m a real live and let live kind of girl, and that certainly goes with the territory. And I’m lucky, in a sense: I practice the safest sex ever— phone sex!

But when I do engage in –ahem- actual physical contact, I use protection. However, in those rare cases I’m in a relationship, that gets old, and after awhile you want that more intimate, skin-on-skin contact with a partner you’ve come to know and trust. So in that case, a girl like me relies on birth control. It makes sense, right? I don’t need, nor want, 10 kids running around. I’m not ready for children, and damn it—WHY OH WHY are there people out there that can’t respect not only my RIGHT to feel that way, but also my GOOD SENSE in being able to know the difference between being ready for the biggest responsibility a person can have, and not being ready? This isn’t a pro-choice rant: I’m NOT going to say/write a peep about abortion. I won’t touch that topic with a ten-foot pole on here. But we are talking LONG BEFORE a baby is involved. No harm, no foul. Why on earth would any group of people want to deny a woman reasonable and affordable means to abstain from having children? Think about it—if she can’t even afford to pay outright for birth control, how on earth could she afford to actually raise a child? And if a woman is clearly saying she’s not in the right mental or emotional place to take that on, why should that bother ANYONE? I thought taking OWNERSHIP of your own flaws, shortcomings, and whatnot was supposed to be a good thing? Not that not having or wanting kids is a flaw—my point it just that people do a lot of stupid things for a lot of stupid reasons, or no reason at all. When a woman is smart enough to know what she wants and what she is or isn’t capable of, we should COMMEND her, not CONDEMN her, for this.

Right now law makers in Arizona are trying to help employers get out of covering birth control in their health insurance plans if a woman doesn’t MEDICALLY need to use it, such as in the case of PCOS. So having perspective on where we are at in life means nothing? Not wanting children, which is everyone’s right to chose just as much as the decision TO have them means nothing?

Why do I get the feeling these are the same folks that would call me a whore for what I do? An abomination for not wanting to be a mother. A brazen strumpet for peddling sex for a living, even when I’m never face-to-face with my “lovers”.

I believe phone sex and other forms of pornography fill a gap in people’s lives. I’ve talked with and made phone love to men who were hurting emotionally, in places where women were not available to them, and even just guys who are too shy to approach women. I provide an outlet for these guys, and that makes ME feel good inside. I get off on getting them off. I get off on making people feel good. How could anyone think this a sin? Because at the end of the day, we are ALL sexual creatures. If we weren’t we’d die off. Not everyone needs to procreate, but everyone DOES need to have sex. The body yearns for this, despite our best efforts sometimes!

Dear readers, my beloved perverts…please think twice before you take any more power away from us ladies. I couldn’t be here serving you up amazing “O’s” if I had a kid on each hip. I’m not ready. And I might not ever be. So what? Who is it hurting? Less taxes out of your pocket, right? Shouldn’t they all rejoice this choice? And If society protects my right to say “I’m not ready yet” regarding having sex in the first place (no means no!), why do they not want to protect my right to say I’m not ready to have children, which is a thousand times more of a big commitment?

Ok, ok, Sedussa is done bitching for today. Back to the phone so I can work off the terrible headache this subject has given me with some good, old-fashioned phone fucking! I fuck, therefore I am. No baby required. ;P

-Sedussa <3

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