Ok, for the most part, I try to stay out of political matters. But I always have, and always will, stick up for women’s rights as the proud, modern, unashamed woman that I am. I mean, I work in the adult industry—that takes a good deal of being open-minded and liberal in such matters. I don’t know what my “client’s” political affiliations are (and trust me, politics are the LAST thing on their minds when they’ve got me on the phone), and I don’t care because it has nothing to do with what we are doing. I’m a real live and let live kind of girl, and that certainly goes with the territory. And I’m lucky, in a sense: I practice the safest sex ever— phone sex!

But when I do engage in –ahem- actual physical contact, I use protection. However, in those rare cases I’m in a relationship, that gets old, and after awhile you want that more intimate, skin-on-skin contact with a partner you’ve come to know and trust. So in that case, a girl like me relies on birth control. It makes sense, right? I don’t need, nor want, 10 kids running around. I’m not ready for children, and damn it—WHY OH WHY are there people out there that can’t respect not only my RIGHT to feel that way, but also my GOOD SENSE in being able to know the difference between being ready for the biggest responsibility a person can have, and not being ready? This isn’t a pro-choice rant: I’m NOT going to say/write a peep about abortion. I won’t touch that topic with a ten-foot pole on here. But we are talking LONG BEFORE a baby is involved. No harm, no foul. Why on earth would any group of people want to deny a woman reasonable and affordable means to abstain from having children? Think about it—if she can’t even afford to pay outright for birth control, how on earth could she afford to actually raise a child? And if a woman is clearly saying she’s not in the right mental or emotional place to take that on, why should that bother ANYONE? I thought taking OWNERSHIP of your own flaws, shortcomings, and whatnot was supposed to be a good thing? Not that not having or wanting kids is a flaw—my point it just that people do a lot of stupid things for a lot of stupid reasons, or no reason at all. When a woman is smart enough to know what she wants and what she is or isn’t capable of, we should COMMEND her, not CONDEMN her, for this.

Right now law makers in Arizona are trying to help employers get out of covering birth control in their health insurance plans if a woman doesn’t MEDICALLY need to use it, such as in the case of PCOS. So having perspective on where we are at in life means nothing? Not wanting children, which is everyone’s right to chose just as much as the decision TO have them means nothing?

Why do I get the feeling these are the same folks that would call me a whore for what I do? An abomination for not wanting to be a mother. A brazen strumpet for peddling sex for a living, even when I’m never face-to-face with my “lovers”.

I believe phone sex and other forms of pornography fill a gap in people’s lives. I’ve talked with and made phone love to men who were hurting emotionally, in places where women were not available to them, and even just guys who are too shy to approach women. I provide an outlet for these guys, and that makes ME feel good inside. I get off on getting them off. I get off on making people feel good. How could anyone think this a sin? Because at the end of the day, we are ALL sexual creatures. If we weren’t we’d die off. Not everyone needs to procreate, but everyone DOES need to have sex. The body yearns for this, despite our best efforts sometimes!

Dear readers, my beloved perverts…please think twice before you take any more power away from us ladies. I couldn’t be here serving you up amazing “O’s” if I had a kid on each hip. I’m not ready. And I might not ever be. So what? Who is it hurting? Less taxes out of your pocket, right? Shouldn’t they all rejoice this choice? And If society protects my right to say “I’m not ready yet” regarding having sex in the first place (no means no!), why do they not want to protect my right to say I’m not ready to have children, which is a thousand times more of a big commitment?

Ok, ok, Sedussa is done bitching for today. Back to the phone so I can work off the terrible headache this subject has given me with some good, old-fashioned phone fucking! I fuck, therefore I am. No baby required. ;P

-Sedussa <3

From GQ: Ari Graynor, star of the hit film For a Good Time, Call, gives her tips for “idiot-proof” phone sex:

GQ: Before we get started, do you have any general tips?
Ari Graynor: Well, the rules of phone sex are much like the rules of life: Be open-minded, nonjudgmental, creative, a good listener.

GQ: Those also translate well to actual sex.
Ari Graynor: To all person-to-person interactions. Moral is: There’s a lot to be learned from phone sex!

GQ: So I’ll start with something like: Hello, this is Winifred, and you’ve reached 1-800-PHONE-SEX! Where we do things like…have phone sex.
Ari Graynor: Um…okay. It’s all about the tone of the voice. Pretend you’re excited. Everything the other person says just makes you tickle with utmost delight!

GQ: Got it. Let me tell you what I’m wearing—I’m in one of those loooong, looose maxi dresses from the Gap.
Ari Graynor: Maybe you could say it’s from Gap Body? That sounds more intimate.

GQ: And how does one get to the action? Would So what are you doing…? suffice?
Ari Graynor: If you’re really running a phone-sex line—for money or for comedy—you would want people to be on the phone for a long time. Start off with small talk. Get to know each other. It could be Oh, you live in Detroit? I hear it’s diiirty there. Have fun with adjectives. They should relate to feelings, colors, or textures. Like, if I asked you: What are you doing right now? You could say: I’m writing… C’mon!

GQ: …I’m doing an interview. It’s sooo hard.
Ari Graynor: Yes! I’m turned on already.

GQ: I’m stretching right now. I don’t know if you can hear me.
Ari Graynor: No, I can. You’re getting very limber, and I like it. Are you flexible?

GQ: If I’m standing straight, I can bend my hands down to, like, my knees?
Ari Graynor: Um, maybe: Oh yeeeeah. I can go all the way down.

GQ: Question: How crucial is variety?
Ari Graynor: Well, it would really be up to your phantom caller. Let them run the show. Some of our callers gave location-specific requests. In your office. Or the supermarket, talking about all of the fruits. Try to keep it in one world.

GQ: I don’t think I can mention private parts, because my co-workers can hear me.
Ari Graynor: Okay. I still feel like you learned a lot.

GQ: Is there any etiquette after everyone is, you know, finished?
Ari Graynor: Well, I think it’s only polite to say thank you. You’ve been through something together. People have given their bodies and souls—and potentially some body fluids.

GQ: Got it. Thank you, Ari.
Ari Graynor: Thank you.

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